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[quote=Anonymous]I would not make her a "live-in nanny". Keep her your nanny and have a separate and different contract for her to rent a room in your home. The two are different. She is a tenant. You would not invite a tenant to family dinner. You might occasionally have them over for a meal or event, but keep that part of the relationship separate. Pay her the normal rate you pay her now and then negotiate what you feel like is fair rent for her in-law area. Is there a way to close it off but have a separate entrance? Like a door that locks between the house and the in-law area and also an actual exterior door? You could lock the door between and then have her enter and leave through the front door of the house as she normally does and walk to her "home" and enter the back door to the inlaw area. That would really help re-enforce boundaries.

I would also then keep strong boundaries about early arrival / late exit / can you watch them for an hour while I run to the store? You need to keep that as clear employer relationship, not a friend or relative visiting and you can use them for a quick second. I can understand that if nanny previously had a long commute, asking her to come earlier or stay later or do weekend sitting may have been less desirable to you all, but if she is your tenant, you should still operate as you used to. Ask if she is willing. Adjust the time or pay overtime. Don't expect / hope / hint that you could use help a little. Be direct and pay for the time worked. [/quote]

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