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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The emotional demand is real and not talked about enough. My best ap was also the worst in some respect because she was really clingy and not respecting boundaries. We had no privacy as a family the first 6 months she was with us.

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I have the same issue on the boundaries. My AP, as she feels closer to us over time, started acting like we are her real family that she can release her feelings to. She also acts like living in her own house. She laid on my couch playing with her phone for 3 hours straight while me and my husband were doing housework around her. I really got fed up with this but since she is leaving in a few days, I just bit my lips.

tired of hosting. [/quote]

You sound awful ... What was the problem ??

Housework is not part of her job unless you asked her as a chore that family share ... but if you don't ask for it, then don't be mad that she doesn't offer.[/quote]

First of all, couch is for sitting on and is shared by family. When she is laying on it for HOURS, how can other people in the house use it? Kick her butt up? Second, she is not a guest and she gets upset if I don’t include her for fun things we do because she wants to be treated like family. But when it comes to cleaning, she apparently doesn’t want to be part of the family so she doesn’t need to take any responsibilities. Ok, If she doesn’t want to help that is completely fine. But don’t lay on the couch watching us running around cleaning. It is just RUDE. [/quote]

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