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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had to do the same with my AP. I tried to balance and let go of a lot - otherwise I would be instructing her all day every day and I knew she’d take it all as criticism. So instead I tried to make a lot of comments as they came up - “we actually have to break down boxes before throwing them away; oh I see you’re doing laundry - you actually don’t fill the washer with clothes past this line, etc etc). I had to let A LOT go because she was pretty fragile. [/quote]

I relate to this a lot but I didn't notice how fragile our au pair was until maybe it was too late.  I tried to ask about her travel plans to see if I could help to change the schedule so she could get an earlier flight (and not risk the last flight of the night cancelations that seem to happen regularly); her interpretation of this was that I was treating her like a child and trying to control her life.  The examples like this go on and on, and she is unwilling to entertain the idea that my comments come from a place of trying to help her save money or be able to do more in her free time...rather than ruin her life.

I think there is always this risk, but if you fluently speak the same language as your au pair, perhaps it is less likely to happen no matter what the subject matter.  Good luck![/quote]

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