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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a long-time host parent, but its been a while since I had one that needed more management.

I treat my au pairs like an adult member of the family (they are adults!) - no curfew, they're not here to clean up after us, they have my full support with regards to handling situations with the kids (I'm not going to contradict the au pair if the kids complain).  For reference, I'm talking about a male AP, 22yo, taking care of two boys, 7 and 10 yo, gets the kids to school in the morning and then works 2:45 - 6/6:30, weekend work is very rare.

This one is, uh, lackluster - though we had a great rapport during the interview process.  Its clear now that he comes from a family of means in his community and likely hasn't had to handle all the stuff that comes with living on ones own (or with others).  So, I guess now its my job to teach him, and I'd rather teach him than rematch, and I don't think we are too far into this to course-correct, but how do I approach this with him in a manner that is not going to be taken critically when I literally have to teach him how to wash dishes?

He's VERY social and goes out nearly every night after dinner and almost the entire weekend (fine with me, as I said, he's an adult and that's his free time), but it also means we haven't gotten to know him as much yet, which maybe is part of my problem and I don't know how to appeal to his sense of humor or whatnot.

How would you handle the situation at this point?

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