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[quote=Anonymous]From my experience, toddlers tend to act up when eating if they are overtired, picky eaters or if there are too many adults in the room, distractions and inconsistent meal time routine/everyone being on the same page about habits to encourage or discourage at meal time (eg parents walking in and out, too many people trying to "help", one or more adults/parents also doing something in the kitchen, one person allowing toddler to walk around while another person encourages sitting). 
Toddlers sometimes don't know how to deal with a lot of attention at once which is why its best to have one adult handle the mealtime if meals are chaotic vs everyone coming in or you peaking in to observe.

Other issues could be going on too: eg toddler doesnt like meal - are the meals she's eating with nanny, the same meals you offer her? Sometimes some parents will ask nanny to prepare wholesome healthy meals for the sake of building healthy habits for toddler but yet they don't offer the same meals when nanny is away (eg offer pouches or snacky/finger foods, dont encourage toddler to eat her meals) as the result nanny looks like the bad guy or nanny is unable to actually foster successful meal time etc. Is she perhaps not hungry yet? Is she being offered snacks/bottle right before meals? is she being. offered a wholesome meal she enjoys?

So its important to have an honest discussion with your nanny and be honest about whats really causing this, whether or not it is a huge deal before letting a good nanny go (as you said she seems to be doing a good job with everything else).

one thing is for sure, everyone needs to be on the same page and meal time routine including what kind of food is prepared for toddler needs to be consistent. Its very possible for children to learn to have an enjoyable meal and while its good for them to explore their food/textures, its also possible to know the difference between learning/exploring and throwing food/wasting it/confusing meal time for play time and etc (it could be that one or more of the adults maybe unknowingly feeding into that drama by either rewarding it or avoiding gently but firmly telling the child "no no food is not for playing, food is for eating" something like (clear boundaries).

i understand you concern but idk if its a huge deal. To me it sounds like having her eat in her diaper is your nanny's way of helping the situation and working smart. That's different from nanny just deciding to let baby run around in her diaper for no reason.

If you know that baby has a hard time at meals (eg removing bib) it means you know things perhaps get messier than a typical meal time. Assuming you have heating in your home, I don't think 15-20mins is harmful to child unless is visibly uncomfortable/harmed as a result of it.Is baby actually cold or are you feeling it must be cold?

Do you prefer that clothes get stained and nanny changes the outfit every time? Have you considered that meal time with 2 parents is a different ball game with one person (even tho its the best solution for nanny & toddler) and thats why you may feel she should make same solution as you & hubby?
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