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[quote=Anonymous]We just completed a year with our first AP. The first six months I loved her so much. She was so cool, and into the coolest interests (that happened to be stuff we're into and partially why she chose us), and helpful and just generally positive attitude, and way helpful. Not really like help with the kids in her off hours helpful, but helpful lol. She was all anti-consumeristic and crunchy and reminded me of like offgridders almost.

In the second six months holy hell there was SUCH a personality change. She decided not to continue because, she said, she wanted to see another part of the country, which I believe. She quickly became detached, disinterested, aloof, and super fixated on money. I found out she even told the woman who was coming in to take her place that the latter could make more money elsewhere. She was mentioning to me, to the now-nanny, repeatedly how APs who work privately make $30 an hour. (Not here, I can assure you, can't speak to the DC market but it sounds implausible given it'd be illegal labor.) She became entitled, never said thank you for anything at all, not even when she was leaving. I have heard about these kind of APs, and for those first 6 or 8 months I was like holy hell who are these a-holes. But then I kind of suddenly had one.

It was so freaking weird, like a total personality shift. She wasn't even interested in all the things she was before and when she came here - like the nature stuff and the crunchy stuff. She started staying out late and later with her AP friends, when she used to be an early to rise type, and said she wanted to live in an area with even more APs. All of us noticed the change - my husband, me, the now-nanny. At one point we heard our son tell her, "You've changed! You used to be one way and now you're different!" Kids, man.

Is this a thing? I remember ONE comment on ONE thread a while back something to the effect of "wait until the local APs get a hold of your sweet and kind AP and she'll change." I thought that was a weird thing to say, but now I wonder.

Also, I'm thinking maybe a year is too long. Anyone purposefully look for rematches or renewals to keep the terms shorter? Is that a thing?[/quote]

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