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[quote=Anonymous]My 6 year old son feels our AP who has been here 9/10 months doesn't "like" him anymore.

Honestly, she has been disengaged since she decided not to extend, around a corner on her phone quite a bit, playing with the kids toys and staring into the distance while they grapple for her attention and affection. And my 6yo boy has gotten more challenging. But he's super thoughtful and funny and nice when you pay him some attention.

But while she's doing the things she has to do - showing upstairs on time, making food, she doesn't seem "into us" anymore. She used to fawn over the girl and doesn't quite anymore, and even my husband who doesn't notice much commented that she seemed disconnected from the kids recently. She kind of ignores me in a way she never used to. She used to stay on top of the kids laundry, now I have to ask, we used to chitchat on Whatapp and now she barely sents one word grunt-like responses if any. She doesn't really hang out at all, not that she ever did a lot, but if she takes dinner with us she disappears quickly to her room right after. That didn't bother me when she seemed otherwise present. Now I just feel kind of rebuffed and a little worried that she's kind of just making sure the kids stay alive and that's all.

Is this a common experience - something akin to senioritis maybe? Any suggestions or should I just put up with the lackluster childcare for the last couple of months? I have someone starting when she's done that actually WANTS to take care of the kids and is super engaged with them so in theory I could end the tenure early but I've already got the money in with the agency of course but still it's a sunk cost.

Doesn't really seem worth bringing up since there is nothing concrete and she still does quite a bit, just not as cheerfully and fully as she used to. I quite often have to do a sinkfull of dishes now at the end of her shift, where that never used to be the case.

Thanks for any thoughts.[/quote]

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