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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As PPs have mentioned - have a calendar posted for the week at the start of each week. If possible, have your partner take over kid duty for about 20 minutes as you go over the schedule for the week.

In my house, I don’t like au pairs to make plans for the kids with other people without running it by me. One of our au pairs used to schedule play dates with her au pair friends kids who weren’t friends with my kids, weren’t the same age as my kids and lived far away. I stopped that and learned I needed to manage more of that type of thing.

It’s not really fair to expect your au pair to take time out of her free time to talk about work, so you need to schedule a meeting with her weekly during her working hours. Let her know that you appreciate that she is being active with the kids, but that they need more down time. The kids will eventually get used to you working in your office if you both help them through it and be consistent. [/quote]

We had this happen too. Aupair passing 3 libraries to get to a library for storytime where her own friends could take their host kids. It was never about storytime or my kids having a playdate. It was her own playdate. [/quote]

If the kids got to attend story time, what’s the big deal?  It sounds like PP’s AP was hanging out at individual houses and that’s a problem, if the kids aren’t friends.[/quote]

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