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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a parent, although I've been a nanny in the distant past, but I guess I'm surprised by the answers I see here.

I'm not a parent who punishes often.  I have other tools in my tool box.  But if I heard that my kid was behaving that poorly for another adult (30 times?  Offering "my brain isn't working" as an excuse), I would intervene immediately.  Honestly, if I was working from home, and my kid was behaving so poorly that an adult needed to ask them 30 (or 3) times to come inside, I'd walk outside, take my kid by the hand and say that if they couldn't be polite and safe when an adult was watching them, then they needed to stay in their room. And then they'd stay there till dinner, where we'd talk about how they were going to apologize and how it was going to go in the future.

Yes, I would give the AP some strategies, but by 5 a kid shouldn't need some kind of perfect strategy to follow a direction, and a parent shouldn't be making excuses like "she didn't ask right" or "but he's kind" or "he was polite about it" or "he only spoke to her in that demanding way once".

To be clear, I believe that there are times when it's appropriate to stay out of a relationship and let a kid and an adult figure it out.  But if it's at the point where the adult is calling for help, and the kid is being unsafe, and not coming to an adult when called, especially when that adult is also watching other kids is unsafe, then I will step in.   
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