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[quote=Anonymous]I have an aupair who is great with my 2 girls, but she got into a car wreck with my car while she was driving back from her boyfriend's house, and the car was completely destroyed. We didn't replace our second car after the wreck because we only need 1 car. Now she wants to buy her own car since we won't let her drive anymore, even though i gave her access to Uber family profile and have been paying fir all her ubers to friends houses and the gym for past 3 months (wreck happened 3 months ago). I have no limits on her uber use. We don't need her to drive for work.

We never asked her to drive on duty, she was using the car on her off time only. She has never driven the kids. Even though the wreck wasn't her fault,  I felt she took an unnecessary risk because her boyfriend lives an hour away and had offered to drive her back. We have no curfew. Additionally, she was driving the car every day before the wreck, and she is not a good driver, I was shocked when she got her US drivers license.

She is insisting that she wants to buy her own car to drive for personal use now, but I worry she will get into another wreck because she makes poor driving decisions. Like she would decide to drive an hour away late at night when she used to have car privileges and she drove that car everyday after work and wouldn't tell us where.

As a compromise, if she wants her privacy, I'm thinking of offering her an Uber stipend for her to be able to go wherever she wants without me knowing where it is, but I don't think she will accept this. I think she really wants to drive, but she just doesn't have the driving skill level to do it safely and im not comfortable for feeling responsible for another wreck, since I already feel like the previous accident was my fault since I let such a terrible driver drive when she had other options. If she insists on driving too much, I'm considering a rematch because it is putting a real strain on our relationship.

Am I being overly harsh here? Any recommendations on how I can get her to stay without driving? I thought offering unlimited uber rides would have been generous enough, but she is still insisting on buying her own car. She is not deterred by cost and offering more money doesn't seem to have helped (i pay far more than minimum stipend).

Hoping others here have more insight...[/quote]

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