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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Posting a meme 10 years ago with a flippant response does not mean she is bipolar. That word as diagnosis is thrown around way too casually by people. I highly doubt this au pair is bipolar. Agencies do have to do some research into candidates, and they would absolutely screen for such mental health diagnoses.[/quote]

I assume they self- report. I would not trust the agencies to do your due diligence for you. [/quote]

I don’t completely trust the agencies but I know they do look at actual medical history. A serious mental health condition that’s been diagnosed will be in medical history. [/quote]

Not our aupair agency. They *asked* for a medical history which is much different than someone reviewing records. An aupair from south africa arrived here and promptly caught mono and almost died from a preteen host family kid. The aupair didn't have a spleen and knew it but had the doctor sign the form which said she had no health issues! She nearly died in the ER here in DC.

Ask as many questions as you need to because once you match and she has arrived, it's something you get to wade through on your own with little help from the aupair agency.

I wouldn't worry about one post about bipolar but I would ask if she has ever been treated for depression in some tactful way. Depression is not a disqualifying factor but being on medication for depression which is difficult to get in the US or expensive could be. If she is on medicatio at home and thinks she will somehow cold turkey it or try and get a prescription here, that will be tough.

These are your kids and you need to trust her completely. Ask all of the questions now. I know more than one aupair who would decide against a family because a child is on medication or something as little as the house doesn't have an extra bathroom. I think it's fine to judge on whether or not someone has a mental health concern which will need treatment after they arrive here.
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Ours too -- she arrived with a recurring medical issue that she had never reported, was too sick to work for 2 weeks, then ultimately had to leave to go home to get it resolved (for insurance reasons).

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