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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]First thing first - you won't be able to get a great AP from the in country pool, so before you push too hard here, make sure you are ready to deal with having no AP for a while (I've hear Mexico is still doing visa appointments, so maybe see if you can quality for a NEI and look at Mexican in country au pairs).

Second thing, she is no longer interested in/focused on being your AP.  She is young, in "love" and focused on that.  Hey, I was there a time or two, so no judgement, but just the facts.

Can you live with the current arrangement until her time is done (I am not sure when that is)?  If so, I would just shut down the "part of the family" thing and treat it like the business arrangement it has become until she leaves. Smile and say good morning, but don't try much beyond that.

If you can't live with the current arrangement, write down with what you can live with it and ask the LCC to help facilitate a conversation about the path forward.  Can she go but not have the car?  Can she stay over a certain number of nights a week? Does she have to start paying for part of the gas?  Be specific.

[b]ps If she has only been dating this guy for two weeks and is already over there this much, I bet it flames out soon![/b][/quote]

+1  And then OP will have to deal with the fallout[/quote]

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