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[quote=Anonymous]Don't feel guilty OP. She is lucky you haven't already let her go despite being more than 15 minutes late on a regular basis. Traveling internationally for anything less than an emergency at this time is plain ridiculous, as is expecting her nanny family of less than one year to accommodate 6 weeks off.

I have been a nanny for over 20 years. Other than the two specific situations highlighted below, I have never asked for more than 8 consecutive days off for my vacations. I always try to consider and plan around my nanny families needs, and consult with them before planning any vacation which requires more than a few days off.

In 2008, I took a 3.5 week trip to Europe. I specifically planned it for a time when my nanny families didn't need me: At the time, I worked during the school year with one family whose parents were both school teachers at a private school, and a second family who employed me during the summers when their children were out of public school. There was always a gap of a week or two between when the teachers no longer needed me and when the summer family needed me to start. So, I arranged my trip with both families, departing 5 days before my term ended with the school teacher family -- they were able to have the grandparents cover those days, and then I used the 2 week gap between families, and instead of starting with the summer family on that following Monday, I returned to work on Wednesday, so the summer family only needed to cover two days without me. That worked well for everyone.

In 2019, after working as a full time nanny for 20 years, I wanted to fulfill one of my bucket list trips and visit Australia. I had already been with my nanny family for 4 years, and spoke with MB in January 2019, explaining my plans and asking for her input on if it was possible on their end and how to make it work. Together, we worked it out so that my trip didn't majorly inconvenience them: I normally had about two weeks off over Christmas and New Year's when they didn't need my help anyway, so I just planned my trip during that time. I left December 20th, and returned on January 12th (resuming work Monday Jan 13th). In that way, I was able to be gone for 3.5 weeks, but because the first 2 weeks fell on Christmas week and New year's week, when I normally wasn't working anyway, it was effectively only inconveniencing my nanny family for one week (January 6th-10th)

The point is, it is entirely possible for a nanny to travel and take time off in a responsible way that doesn't drastically inconvenience her employer. It doesn't sound like your nanny respects or values your need for reliable childcare, as evidenced both by her frequent tardiness as well as her expectation to be able to take more than 4 weeks off without any effort to compromise with you on the timing or duration of her trip.

Don't feel one bit guilty OP. I hope you are able to find a more reliable nanny![/quote]

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