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[quote=Anonymous]Do you have a contract?

My contracts specifically state what happens when relatives visit:
If relatives visit infrequently (less than 3 days per quarter or 2 weeks per year), I will rearrange the schedule with them to facilitate quality time with the child(den).  If they visit frequently (4+ days per quarter or 2+ weeks per year), the schedule remains as is, and they are welcome to join us when and if they desire.

I also insist that all adult who are present in the home at least 20% of the time agree to the contract.  If they’re there for a week or more each month, they’re not just visiting anymore (and that’s seen very well in the attitude change reflected in you leaving early).  I would gently bring up my contract and insist that we get the grandparents on the same page for the baby’s schedule (especially naps and bottles/food!), so that everyone could coexist more happily.

I’d also suggest that perhaps the guest bedroom should be converted into the baby’s room temporarily, with the nursery becoming the office and the guest bed going into the living room.  That would give you space away from everyone for the child to play undisturbed, the grandparents could join as interested but ignore the child without enduring crying, and it would cut down on parents unintentionally starting the ruckus.

I would also insist on discussing the amount of interruptions.  This is not a healthy life for that baby.  That much uncertainty and crying are detrimental.[/quote]

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