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[quote=Anonymous]I have been a Nanny for a family for around six years.
I care for a six & 1/2 year old boy along w/his 2.5 year old little sister.

I felt that after six years w/this family, trust had been fully established and that I had a great working relationship w/both parents.

Until the beginning of this year. Pre-pandemic.

>>> Okay, let me go back a little to add important context to my situation.
When the boy was about 3-ish years of age - a parent of one of his playground buddies (who I had known about a year or so) invited me + him over for a play date at their house.
I had asked my boss if it was okay to go (she didn’t know the other parent) and she gave us permission to go.
She told me it would be fine, as long as I would be there.

Later on, she also gave me permission to take my charge to the same house for a birthday party.

Then in January of this year, another family that I know from the playground invited us over for a play date.
Well since the Mother gave me permission prior to go to a play date, I thought it would be okay for us to go but I would still ask her if it was okay.
Well getting two kids packed up and ready to go took more time than I had planned & I didn’t want to be late to our play date so I didn’t have time to ask her prior.

It wasn’t until we all arrived at the play date’s home that I called the Mom.
She dryly thanked me for letting her know.

Later in the day, when she came home she was agitated at me.
She told me that I was not allowed to bring the children into someone’s home where she did not know the family.
She was concerned about guns in the home or possibly a sex offender, etc.

I mentioned to her that prior she had given me permission w/another family that she did not know.
She said it was “different” because now there were two of them (kids.)
???? Huh ??!! ~

She told me from now on, I could only take the kids to “public” places.
I apologized profusely for what I did, yet over time this has really affected me.
I admit almost a year later, it still bothers me.’

I feel as if fundamentally my MomBoss does not trust me and does not trust my judgment.
I also feel that since she was okay w/me taking her child to a play date at another home prior that this reaction was a little extreme.
Though I do realize I should still have asked her prior.

Her statement of only taking them to public places only also did not sit well w/me.

What do you think?
Was it a serious infraction of what I did?
Do you all think that deep down, she really does not trust me even after six years?[/quote]

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