Reply to Who are the rematch families?

Forum Index » Au Pair Discussion

Reply to "Who are the rematch families?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have a toddler and a Kindergartner and put our au pair into rematch two weeks after schools closed (and about a month after she arrived).  From the beginning, it was clear that she had greatly exaggerated her experience with kids - she was stiff and uncomfortable with ours and had to be reminded of basic things, like needing to hold our toddler's hand in the parking lot.  She had never changed a diaper or given a child a bath, despite telling us she had babysitting experience with toddlers, and was very uncomfortable performing these tasks.  We tried to give it some time, but things were not improving.  She just didn't seem to like little kids very much.  After schools closed, we tried to provide as easy a schedule as possible to accommodate her skill level, only 4-5 hours a day, four days a week, only caring for the youngest, while we managed our jobs, our Kindergartner's homeschooling, and cared for both kids in the afternoon.  But she still seemed overwhelmed and miserable, and was impatient and joyless with our toddler (who was equally miserable).  She frankly also wasn't a very pleasant or considerate roommate.  We've now been without childcare for six weeks and I don't regret our decision. It's been much easier without her, even though my husband and I are working from 6 in the morning until late at night, between our jobs and childcare responsibilities.  We had great relationships with our previous au pairs and I naively thought that we'd never need to rematch.  But I learned my lesson.  She rematched within just a few days with a family with older kids, and I do think that will work much better for her.  We interviewed some rematch candidates and ultimately decided to take a little break from the program rather than bring in someone new during this stressful time.  [/quote]

I am in a very similar situation.. our AP clearly had no idea how to make it work and while we were able to struggle through while the kids were in school it is not ideal now.. I keep thinking it would be easier to work full time and take care of the kids and lessen all of the stress of keeping her happy. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics