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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My AP is German and due to leave in August.  He keeps telling us he is staying till then.  But he also keeps telling us he hears of new APs from his group announcing they are going home every day.  He seems to feel he is the only one staying.  It makes me think he is thinking of going too.

I keep telling him he is safer here than traveling now.  Which I actually believe.  His parents are supporting of him staying too.  But if he feels his government is requiring him to ho, he will likely go. [/quote]

I am this pp.  my instincts were correct, and German AP just dropped the “I’m leaving”  bomb on us.  Still stung though I suspected his unspoken feelings back then.  My son said to him when he learned the news “weren’t we just making fun of APs going home?”  I still think it is safer to stay for now, but it’s not up to me.

I can’t sleep.[/quote]

I don't blame him, it doesn't feel like life will be anything like fully back to normal until at the very least September (maybe even January) while Germany has been easing their restrictions. 
Why should he stay in the US locked in until pretty much the end of his stay when he could go home and have a bit of his life back? It's not safer to stay when the US has way more cases and deaths, and states are reopening without having barely done any lockdown guaranteeing a second wave sooner rather than later when his country has a much lower death/contamination rate.

If you/your son were making fun of APs going home to their family in a time of crisis, shame on you.

Teach your son not to try and guilt-trip people or shame them for doing what they feel is right by them in a time of uncertainty and crisis that could mean never seeing loved ones again, after not having seen them for months/over a year, unless you would all be happy to live/be stuck in a different country from each other and potentially never see each other again.

I honestly don't know why you can't sleep, you are safely quarantining with your loved ones and your AP is about to go do the same, not sure what's worth losing sleep over?

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I am the PP.  and when my son said "we" he meant between him and the AP.  I was not making fun of anyone at any time, and I never said we don't empathize.  And I meant he is safer here because he won't have to travel on a long flight and potentially expose his loved ones.  He is safe here, but he is homesick.  I get it.

My post was mainly about trusting instincts.  My AP expressed to us many times in the early days how others were going, and he didn't understand how or why they could do that.  It was a red flag, though it could have been reassuring based on the words he was saying to us.

I couldn't sleep because we, like I imagine many of you, are all under some stress as we try to work, manage the school for kids, manage boredom, manage finances, etc.  I was grateful to have a great AP for that part, but now I don't.  It's an additional trauma.  But thanks for your empathy towards me.  [/quote]

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