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[quote=Anonymous]We are 6 months in and am feeling like this has been the worst AP experience to date. I should have rematched at the beginning, but I just thought she was getting settled in.

18yrs old (crux of the issue I'm thinking). Is in the kitchen/family room when I wake up and it there until I go to bed. Last night she followed me from room to room talking nonsense (boyfriend, other AuPairs, her teachers when she was in high school...ect). I think if she could, she would be with us 24x7. Sometimes I don't make eye contact hoping she give up and does someting else, but NOPE.  The kids have not connected with her and the big issues is all she talks about is herself. It is so exhausting!  Even then kids are like "OMG, can this girl go somewhere sometimes?!"  We went to a movie without her, literally had to sneak out of the house and told her we were going to a friends house. She cried afterwards because we did not include her "at the friends house". We just wanted to be together alone as a family, something that now NEVER happens.  We have resorted to piling up in our mater bedroom so we can just be together.  I truly feel like i have a 3rd child and this 3rd child is more needy than my biological ones. I've had to tell her several times, very bluntly,  that on weekends do not wait around for us. We are busy running errands, shopping, taking kids to friends or places, maybe seeing friends and to not wait around for us. She has expressed dismay that we do not call her for lunch or let her know our lunch plans. I told her we have no lunch plans. Ever. if we are out sometimes we stop for chickfila or a restaurant. She wants the opportunity to meet us there. That is a hard no.  The lunch is not an event. It is patch between needing to be places. She is home, she can eat the food there.

Anyways we are thankfully done with the program this summer, so there is no reason to hassle with a rematch, which is really what should happen here.  With that said, how have you all established boundaries with a stage 5 clinger? One who is VERY sensitive.[/quote]

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