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[quote=Anonymous]Our au pair has been here since September. She’s adequate. My kids really like her but she needs some micromanaging and is really quiet/not very communicative. I have 3 kids ages 5, 7 & 10 and she generally works 3-8:30 m-f and 1-2 mornings/week, so total hours usually around 35 hours/week. We were extremely up front about our schedule being flexible and needing occasional later nights during the week  and occasional weekend help, usually Sunday evenings. We have a second home where we go many weekends and ap can come if she wants, but she has only come up twice- once the first time we went when she was here (& my eldest’s bday weekend) and the second over thanksgiving.

It’s now ski season and we had talked with her before matching that we go skiing every weekend in Jan-March and we will want her to come sometimes. I just spoke with her about the weekends this month and her response was “I have something every weekend this month. Apparently all my friends have January birthdays”. I’m pretty shocked but now I think we need to have a reset conversation since she doesn’t seem to have any interest in spending family time and is phoning in a lot of the rest of her job.

She just had 2 weeks off and her family came to stay over Christmas because we traveled to see our family and she elected not to come. Her family stayed at our house. Then she had a friend come to stay last Thursday and she’s leaving tomorrow. She has a friend over most weekends - usually she checks with me first but not always - and basically does the bare minimum.

Advice on how to address these issues? She’s the most mediocre ap since our first, and though the kids like her I don’t really understand why. I’m not sure I want to deal with another 8 months of this. [/quote]

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