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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]and this is feeling like a mistake. We are a new HF and it's been a rough transition getting adjusted to having an au pair. Our AP is fine...she's responsible and sweet, gets along fine with our kids (3 year old and 8 month old) but is really just a glorified babysitter. I'm feeling super drained by the constant training and redirection. She's not proactive but does what we ask her to, most of the time, I just have to tell her explicitly every single day what we want. She's not particularly enthusiastic and I do question why she wants to be in the US, as she spends all of her free time talking to her boyfriend back home or out with other APs from her home country, which I understand is normal but doesn't strike me as someone who wants to learn the language/take advantage of living here.

It's also wearing on my husband and me to have someone living in our house, even though we didn't think it would. I work at home, my 3 y/o is in preschool most of the day, the AP is with the baby, cooped up in the house because of the cold weather and the fact that she's not a great driver... it just feels like so much more work to have our AP here, for some reason.

Short of leaving the program early, which I understand is costly and I don't want to go back on our commitment, any tips from BTDT families on how to have a better mindset about this? Or make this work better for us?[/quote]

This is exactly what thry are and why we never got one until our kids were in school.

It is cheap flexible mediocre childcare. Perfect for kids who are low needs. Not a chance in hell I'd leave my BABY with someone so apathetic and demotivated. We hired a professional nanny with references and solid years of experience during our kids formative years. I bet she is on her phone every second you aren't looking. Not good for a baby.[/quote]

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