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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I consider myself liberal politically and generous with my APs, but I admit I probably would not take this on knowingly.  When I ask myself, why?, its because it seems like an additional layer of complexity that I don't want to take on. If the transition is relatively recent, I'd be concerned that there were lingering emotional challenges, I'd worry that my AP was running away from a less accepting family at home, I'd worry that she would need expensive medical care (hormones) that would be expensive, and that its hard enough to be a young person in a new place and foreign culture without adding any additional challenges to the mix.  May be shallow, but that is my honest reaction. [/quote]

+1. It easy to say you would do it in an anonymous forum and judge other people.
I am liberal and a minority and I know how discrimination feels like but I also understand the complexity of this situation.
I have 2 boys and 1 girl, they are pretty young and for now I only hire female APs. I might be open to BroPair when my kids are older. With that said:
- I will hire a female transgender AP if she is fully transitioned and live as a women 100% of the time. My kids already ask difficult questions about every days stuffs that I have challenge answering, like PP i don't want more layers of complication. When they are older and understand we will have the conversation.
- If the transgender AP has just recently transitioned or it is still obvious they were male, I am not open it, because of reasons I l already listed. Also the emotional stress that come with transitioning and the medical protocol they have to follow.
In order words you could have already hosted a fully transitioned AP without knowing. I don't think they need to disclose that unless they are still transitioning.
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Both of these posters said it well. I would also be open to it as described above.  I liken it to my neighborhood's son.  When she was transitioning, she was emotional, protesting, always angry, etc.  For good reason, I think.  But I felt like just saying, live your life as a man. No one will know or care.  Just live your life.  I saw a recent post where he shared wonderful news about his new job and move, and I was so happy for him.  Not one mention of being transgender.

So I would be ok if an AP had completely transitioned and was just moving on with her life.  [/quote]

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