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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would pay for the first ski trip. It’s a family outing, and something new that she might enjoy.

Yes, $50 is a large part of the au pair budget (depending on what Canadian take home pay is for au pairs - it’s almost 20% of the US budget).

She has been with your kids all day. She wants to relax, watch Netflix, etc at night - not take your kids for more hours during her off time so that you feel like she’s going above and beyond.

Come on parents, your expectations aren’t fair ...[/quote]

We don't *expect* her to do something like that, it was an example (and it would be after the kids are asleep), but at the same time I feel like we do a lot that isn't expected of us. This is only our 2nd AP after having full/part-time nannies in the past, so we don't have much of a basis of comparison, but our first AP would do little extras as a gesture of thanks - not at all expected and we were immensely grateful, and it felt like a two-way street in terms of each party being thoughtful. That's why I feel kind of conflicted about things at the moment ...[/quote]

Yup. Long time.HM here. I right now have an awful AP. We dont offer her a single thing extra. Quite frankly I'd love it if she initiated rematch. I'd say we spent an extra 7k on extras for our former APs each year. This one gets nothing. I've always paid for even personal gas, this one, I dont even let her take thr car out of our town. With how unmotivated she is around the house, I can only imagine she is as unmotivated to pay attention to the road rules.

This is life. Work hard, earn nice things. Be lazy, recieve the minimim.[/quote]

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