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[quote=Anonymous]Unfortunately, we have a mediocre au pair who is a bit of a "princess" too.  There are several small things that we have issues with, including that she does not help out around the house, we have caught her lying about small things, and she is a bit snarky at times.  There are also some bigger issues, such as multiple (small) car accidents.  The biggest thing is that she is not good with the kids.  She is always on her phone, does not engage with them unless we specifically tell her to.  It just seems that she does not enjoy playing with young kids and gets bored of it easily.  The worst thing is that she is way too harsh with discipline.  She has no discretion at all and will punish my kids for every little thing.  We had a big incident recently when my four-year-old basically had a panic attack after the au pair got too harsh with her.  After that, I reached out to our LCC and we had a mediation.  AP acted like she was at an "interview" during the mediation, giving "canned" responses to everything, saying that she completely understood, and promising to change.  She made it clear that she does not want to leave us - we offer her a pretty good situation (good location, lots of perks, good hours).  I was somewhat hopeful that she would come around - maybe we just did not give  her enough advice and we need to manage her better?  But, the other part of me thinks that even if she does change temporarily, she will go back to her old ways.  I feel badly about sending her into rematch this time of year.  I also have concerns about what it would mean for our family.  It would be inconvenient, but we could deal with a gap in care (we have family in the area).  I have concerns over the re-match pool and about rushing into picking someone new.  I feel that my gut says to rematch and that this is only going to get worse, but I just keep second-guessing myself.  What would you do?  [/quote]

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