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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, the fact that you seem to be approaching the AP program in a similar fashion to your job as a manager make alarm bells ring personally. It’s supposed to be a cultural exchange that involve childcare not some sort of military excercise.

You shouldn’t expect to find your house in a worse state than you left it in the morning, and should expect her to clean up after herself  and the kids but do pick your battles.

If your kids are little  to the point they are unable to clean after themselves, requiring her to do a lot of cleaning would mean her having to leave your kids unattended or not properly supervised while she sorts everything out. Would you be comfortable with your kids being plonked on the TV for a while?  There is a reason why a lot of the cleaning happens when kids are out of the house, with the other half or once they are in bed. Managing little ones and ensuring they are safe can be challenging, especially for a young lady who probably has never had to juggle this type of multitasking before.

Have a list of things you want done throughout the week or day bur be flexible and understanding of the fact that she is young and probably never had to run a household. Remember that while it is your house, it is also her house for the year and she should feel comfortable living with you, which she is unlikely to feel if it seems like she is being scrutinized by you and have to constantly live up to your standards.

Personally I think it is better to raise an issue when there is one than anticipating the AP will be a slob and be on her toes at all times. Tell her what you expect, and if it doesn’t suit you, bring it up. 
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Thank you for your feedback and thoughts, I do appreciate it. I've explained in a previous reply (posted after your comment) my situation better, but your concerns are certainly still valid and advice thoughtful. Thanks again.

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