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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]per the very explicit rules about the kind of tasks you are allowed to assign them, we don't ask her to do anything not directly child-related[/quote]

While your specific agency might have very explicit rules some don't and I don't think I remember there are explicit rules about tasks that can be assigned in the law (there are very few explicit rules in there anyhow). You can ask her to pitch in as a room mate, even if it's not child-related.
When it comes to a chore being directly child-related... would you ask her to please unload everything that the kids and her used? Would be kids related. Would not make sense though. Unloading the dishwasher (so that she and the kids can eat during the day) is totally allright. It's also great if you as a family decide not to ask her to and instead ask her to do more child-related chores. It's also great if you don't ask her to do any housework at all. Good for her, good for you.

[quote=Anonymous]but technically you're not supposed to ask her to do any other household chores[/quote]
[quote=Anonymous]Is it okay to add AP to the list of household chores and ask her to vacuum the living room? [/quote]

Everybody who lives in a certain space gets that space dirty so everybody can help with chores.
Yes, you are not supposed to ask your AP to do the gardening or wash the windows or clean the master bath but you can very well ask her to pitch in with general (light) housework such as loading and unloading the dishwasher, sweeping the kitchen or vacuuming the living room. It's a home, not a hotel.

[quote=Anonymous]When I ask her she either says "I didn't know where that went" or "the cupboard was full". The "I don't know where that went" makes ZERO sense after 6 weeks[/quote]

OP, I think it sounds like a mixture of both being lazy and not being super sharp.
Not knowing where it goes may be okay for weird things, not knowing how to restack the tupperware to make it fit is somewhat both (it's lazy not to try and not too sharp not to manage if you try) but it may also be an issue of her not feeling responsible for it (cf. PPs). I agree with the PP who said to have a conversation with her and ask her why that part is not going well. Unloading a dish washer should really be a non-issue. (While asking her to wash all of yesterday night's pots and pans by hand if she is not having dinner with you would be more of an issue - I have had friends in Asian families where all meals of the day were hot meals and AP was supposed to wash all pots and pans by hand five days a week that quickly became an issue on both sides.)[/quote]

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