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[quote=Anonymous]Thanks did feedback. I’ll clarify a few things for everyone since you don’t know the whole situation as it stands. We are also not helicopter parents (to AP and our own children) btw and very from from that. Our AP is frequently comparing with her friends who has the best host and we are usually the favorite.

We actually are fine with her dating and she knows that. We don’t interfere with her general dating at all, and she can do whatever she wants. We have NEVER requested to meet every date nor do we want to do that - instead are only request is that she meets dates in public places for the first time. Not down on the waterfront park away from people at night. Basic stuff any women should do this day in age - even the strong / independent.

Plus we’re 100% supportive of her going on a trip with the guy she recently met - all we wanted to do is meet the person for her own safety. As I read in another post, while she is an adult on paper, we still have a responsibility as he host parents to ensure she is safe and successful outcomes.

I’m not going to be the one to tell her real parents that we knowingly let her go on a weekend trip with a guy we never met and something bad happened to her. Put yourself in different shoes - would you let your own daughter in high school go on a trip with a random guy you have never ever met and without telling anyone? While the AP is 21, she never went to college like most of you here in the US who are informed of risky behavior, etc during orientation - nor has she lived on her own before.

I’m not even sure the AP’s friend have ever met this guy - so she’s being sneaky to everyone, not just us. It’s just an odd situation .... anyways, She’s got it pretty good as our AP, private house, private car, paid for everything, no restrictions except week nights home by midnight and weekends 2 AM). Hopefully she makes good choices moving forward.

I am planning to only address a few things

1. She let a man into our house at night while everyone was sleeping. This isn’t acceptable. 
2. She made a poor choice of leaving in the middle of the night with no plans (no hotel, etc) and without telling us at all. The original plan was to leave Saturday and she said we could meet him before they left. 
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