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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] Our AP is heading home to visit family at the beginning of August for two weeks, and then we will need childcare full time for two more weeks after that. So, do I tell AP before she heads to visit her family or after she gets back?[/quote]

Goodness. Just imagine leaving a HF you obviously are happy with and enjoy working for and you return from vacation and they tell you they will kick you to the curb in two weeks time... but hey, not your fault! It's us. Not you. (Of course if you don't find a new HF because it's late August, many have just welcomed their new AP and everybody is busy with back to school things you will be back in your home country in two weeks time and could just have saved all that money you just spent on your vacation)

You are breaking the contract. You want (need) her to cater to your needs and get out at your convenience though you have signed a contract that obviously runs for longer than September... yes, you tell her asap. And you deal with the consequences. You allow for more than the two weeks of rematch, either having her start rematch before she leaves for home in August or you keep her (and pay her!) in the beginning of September if she hasn't found a family by the end of August. And if she finds a family that needs her in the last week of August already you suck it up and rely on some type of back-up care and let her go without making it more difficult for her than it already will be.

Yes, sometimes your needs change. But that means you bend over backwards and don't require them to.
Or you turn into one of the horrible host families APs complain about on facebook, instagram, youtube or wherever and make it all about you.[/quote]

+100, Needs change, tell her now and let her choose what she want to do (leave now or stay till September) and deal with the consequences. Be fair! Don't do to people what you wouldn't want done to you. 
PS: I know a lot of family who have left the program mid-way because their need changes. This happens, but got to be done in a decent way.[/quote]

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