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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]WARNING: LONG POST

We're on our 4th year of the program. Was planning to do one more year after this, but I don't think I have it in me. We've had a mix of really good, and bad experiences - nothing as bad as some of the horror stories I've heard, but I can't handle essentially taking care of another person who provides inconsistent or inadequate care. We did 4 years of a nanny before switching to au pairs. And there are lots pros and cons to both options. I think I'm ultimately exhausted from relying on a singe child care provider - their problems become my problems, and I rarely receive support for my family outside of what's required of the job.

I know I will need to figure out after school care, and struggle with summer - but I hope I can figure it out - like most families do.

The main thing I'm really worried about leaving the program - and not going back to a nanny - is that the kids will lose a source of love and attention. All of our providers have been incredibly loving, and that has been the biggest value they offer. We have no family in the area and they rarely visit - and I'm worried they won't have the same amount of love they've had over the years. We have 3 young kids (ages 4 - 8).

With no au pair, I will be the one running around more, rushing to and from work, which isn't exactly conducive to being really present for my kids. I'm worried I won't be able to give them the attention they need.

What I liked about our au pairs is that they really got "down on the ground" with my kids, participated in all of their made up games and projects. I would love to find some one else who could provide this type of attention to my kids - but not someone I need to show up so I can go to work. Maybe some one in the evenings or weekends, with the primary purpose of playing with the kids (and maybe giving me a little breathing room).

For those in the same predicament, what type of person have you found to provide this type of support? A college student? High school? Retired or part time nanny?

Where's the best place to find these magical beings? Care.com? Local listserv? Local college listservs?[/quote]

We left the program 2 years ago after only 3 years and it has been absolutely wonderful. I just read these boards for amusement.

We have the same summer sitter again this year home from college.  Yesterday was the first day she was watching the kids. She still brings them to the half day camps I'm sending them to and makes sure they have sunblock on for the pool. I love love love not having to concern myself with another adult in the house.  Today they are making cookies. It is nice having someone who is fresh and excited to do fun things.  Also great having someone with their own car, who speaks English fluently and who knows the area and does not need any explanation.

For the school year, my oldest son just comes home after school and my youngest goes to TKD.  The TKD place is open teacher work days, but normally DH or I take that day off anyway in order to do something fun with the kids.[/quote]

Where did you find your summer sitter?[/quote]

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