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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand the “inconsistent and inadequate care” but all your APs have been “incredibly loving.” Did you not rematch at all and try to stick it out? If an AP can’t do their job, you need to dump them and find a better match. Period. No matter how “loving” to the kids.[/quote]

yes, we had 1 rematch. all of them have loved the kids, but didn't always follow through on things like discipline or chores related to the kids. our current is great with the kids most times, loves them, but can be incredibly moody, and short tempered other times.

all have done or requested some things that have screwed up my ability to balance life and work. like when our last au pair insisted on going home to brazil for 3 weeks to have a cavity filled - with less than a week's notice. or our current one mentioned that she was planning a 2 week trip with her friends coming in June a week ago - although I told her upfront and addressed it our handbook that we can't give her long vacations during the summer time - and need more than a few weeks to figure coverage for the kids.

and although they loved my kids (and for the most part my kids didn't feel the impact of any upheaval) their care (or support of our family) has been inconsistent and inadequate. and over time, has taken a toll on me.[/quote]

Without consistent care options for your young kids, way more stress is going to be out on you then all of the incidents above combined IMO. I am a working married mother of 3 young kids (4, 7, and 9) who are all in school FT, and do camp throughout most of the summer. Even with that said, there is a ton that our AP helps to do. The “little” things that are huge time savers like packing their summer camp bags, ensuring they have clean swimsuits, towels, sunscreen, and goggles, washing their clothes, sick days, snow days, packing those darn lunches, helping me tag team when one has practice but the other two want to stay home ... this list goes on and on - and yes, as you state, running around the backyard with the kids, playing legos or some random made up game or Pokémon when I’m unable to do so. I’m not quite sure how you fill all of those voids with no family around and two working parents.

Good luck! Post an update to let us know how everything goes.[/quote]

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