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[quote=Anonymous]OP, the way you have negotiated and explained the situation is a bit confusing. It also seems like you let some things bother you more than they should -- you can just answer "no" for her questions about days off factually, and listen sympathetically about her issues with money without taking on some mental burden that this is something you need to worry about or help solve. (I do agree it's a bit unprofessional for an employee to complain about bills to an employer, but some people just have that kind of oversharing habit.)

It's unclear whether you presented the new requirements as a package: say that your needs have changed and instead of 24 hours on MWF, it's 6 hours MWF + X hours on Sat/Sun for same weekly pay, as opposed to offer the 6 hours MWF at first, then tack on the weekend request as an afterthought. It's certainly bold for the nanny to counter "no I can only do 6 hours MWF for same money" but that is how negotiations work --  people can say yes, no, or counteroffer. You can and should do the same and be honest, rather than say "yes" to nanny's counteroffer and hold it against her secretly for not quitting instead so you didn't have to say "no". If you are uncertain about a counteroffer, it's better to say "I need to think about it / talk with DH" than to agree to something in the moment that you're not really ok with.

If your business trips are coming up very soon, then you'll probably just have to live with the extra expense / fewer hours you committed to until they're over and give the nanny notice that you've considered it more and the new arrangement doesn't actually work so you will have to part ways. If the business trips are further out such that you have time to give 2 weeks notice, find a new nanny and do whatever trial period/adjustment you feel you need to be comfortable before the trip, then do that. Chalk this up as a learning experience on how to communicate better with your nanny going forward.[/quote]

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