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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thank you for the advice and feedback! I did mention in the beginning that on the weekends she could do whatever since she was an adult and I wanted to treat her as such. But I let her know that I expected her to be home by around 11 on nights she had to watch the kids the next morning. Not having it in writing was my mistake though. I just casually mentioned it when we were first talking so you are right moving forward I will clearly express my expectations.

I think most of my frustration just boils down to feeling like there is a lack of flexibility since I know she always has plans. I believe moving forward I will give her the weekly schedule on Sunday so she knows there may be changes.

I have literally had 4 nannies that have not lived with me that I became closer with in this amount of time (6 months) so when she said she absolutely wants to extend with us it made me feel like she was just doing it to stay near her BF. The older kids like her but I do not believe she goes out of her way to connect with them. The toddler loves her but most days she watches him she has an Au Pair friend come over and the kids play together so again I am not sure how engaged she is. I definitely think 6 more months is doable and the kids are attached but I am getting stressed about thinking about 18 more months.   [/quote]

YES Do give her the schedule for the week BY Sunday. That is what I do and there is no problem. I use a google doc and update as soon as I have more info and she can see it, it is good if she can plan in advance. AGAIN DO NOT EXTEND!! Beside the problem I mentioned earlier about extending so she can get status, most people who extends complain about the AP motivation. I had a 6 months extension AP and she couldn't wait for it to be over and she told me most the one who extends for a year burn out and don't finish the program.[/quote]

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