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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's completely unreasonable asking for these two days off.[/quote]

While it may be completely unreasonable asking for those days off, how unreasonable it is will actually depend on the specific situation. When endometriosis hit me in my early 20s, I was constantly throwing up for at least the first three days plus my cramps were so bad I could barely stand up straight (and couldn't hold pain medication down due to throwing up). Plus because of the cramping I barely slept nights (which was acutally good as I had to get up to change my pad at least twice per night). Thankfully, I have PCOS in addition to endometriosis and my cycles are naturally ~90 days long.

Yes, being on the pill saved me but you can't force your AP to go on birth control.

OP, while I understand that you might not feel that it's your place to give medical advice, please do so!
Have you talked to her why she is asking for the time off? 
Is it for cultural reasons? In that case, she might need a talking to that it's not culturally/socially acceptable (or appropriate) to take time off just because you are on your period. (We had an Asian PhD student who we noticed had quite frequent sick days which we later learned she took because she had been taught she shouldn't go to school/work while menstuating - no idea how she graduated school or university in her home country with missing so much education.)
Is she in pain/vomiting? If so, please tell her to go see a gynecologist or Planned Parenthood. Don't give specific medical advice. It doesn't matter if you or I or her LCC think it's endo or PCOS or a cyst or whatever but it's important that she gets help if she is in so much pain that she is unable to work.[/quote]

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