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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What bothers you about her being around on the weekend if she is happy and cheerful (and not actually sulking and looking miserable)? I assume she spends most of the time in her room? Your house is her home for the year, some people like to spend their weekend relaxing in the comfort of their home on weekends and if your kid are school-aged she might be out a lot during the weekdays and not feel the need to go out on weekends?

You might want to offer her tickets to events she would like as an insensitive to get out of the house but you really can't be mad about her wanting to spend her weekends at home. She is as entitled to stay home on her time off as you are.

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[b]Not OP, but any seasoned hf knows homebody ap = recipe for not great ap.[/b]

Hf with small kids need to hang around the house a lot more on weekends and are housebound due to chores that won't get done during the week. The normal thing to expect from a twenty-something person coming to the US would be to have better things to do. Like whatever we did when we were that age.

Obviously if they are partying until the ams they will have a lazy day and not leave room. But this is not what op is describing.
All my aps came with great plans and expectations. All confirmed they were early birds, outdoorsy, active and interested in cultural and sports activities. The earliest any would rise (only with us waking her) would be 8am.

None of them went for any of the long runs or dog walks they had so heavily enquired about. All gained weight, state of room went from teenage cluttered to outright filthy, they would skip breakfast and show up just before pick-up time all spacey and not alert. Being in a rush and a frenzy about simple things (location of car key, exact day of week and ups is it a ballet day?!, after remembering still leaving house without ballet gear). Lack of general attention was apparent at all times (would not hear noises that everyone else heard, would not see things right in front of them).

Oh and all of them stated that they had a great year and all were perfectly cheerful and happy about themselves!

Why do I care? Because this is exactly what happens to aps who hang around the house ALL the time. They are not reading Shakespeare or studying language and then rising to prepare a healthy snack. They are falling into a lifestyle that none of us would accept with our adult children. Don't be fooled, they are not unwinding  in any healthy way, these days all they do is lying in bed on their phone. Not a lifestyle you'd want to model to your children![/quote]

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