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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know this is not the original question, but to me it sounds like this is not how the AP program works. My understanding is that AP can only be part of one family. You and your ex are clearly two families. There may be a loophole that allows your AP to watch your kids at your ex’s house, but AP should not be watching the baby under any circumstances. This has nothing to do with what you put in your profile. The way I understand it, it’s a violation of the program rules. I am surprised the LCC is ok with this. [/quote]

This.

Who was AP hired to watch? She lives with OP so I assume she was hired to watch the two children living with OP? Watching the kids at dad's place might be some grey area (or not... who knows, she can watch the at the zoo or when on vacation I guess watching them at dad's home around the corner would probably be okay - she was hired to care for them, location might not matter that much) but watching the baby? Wouldn't she have do be dad's and new wife's AP to do that? Isn't that an insurance issue? Who signed the contract with the agency? As AP is living with OP I would guess OP did? And that the AP was officially placed with OP as her HF? I don't understand how the LCC can be okay with AP watching a child that is not OP's... Did both parents sign the contract with the agency? Didn't anyone raise the issue of two different addresses? I mean, I am sure they don't care who actually pays them (or AP) as long as they get their money and AP is paid their stipend but shouldn't AP switching families (and adding a third child every other week) be an issue?

For AP to watch the baby I would assume that she would have had to be hired by the infant's parents (both, XH and his new wife) instead of OP. In that case I am sure she could officially and legally watch all three (because all three are XH's children) but then her living with OP wouldn't be in the spirit of the program.

And while it might not have been asked directly, I do think it is part of the original question... unless the hiring process was more messed up than it should have been AP is not responsible for the baby. She really shouldn't be watching the baby at all. I don't see how an "internal agreement" can break the AP contract. I can "internally agree" that my AP watches my BIL's children when she isn't watching mine (or while my children are visiting BIL or while all four are with MIL). That still doesn't make it right or in the spirit of the program. AP can't be an AP for two families and that is basically what XH is expecting. She doesn't have to care for the baby and she really shouldn't care for the baby. No matter if she is over at XH's home or with or without the older children. She is either OP's AP (watching the 10&12 yo) or she is XH's AP (watching the baby and the 10&12 yo) but in that case she should be living with XH and not OP.

But even IF someone can find a loophole to have her watch the baby, she cannot be on call 7 days a week. If she is on call she is working. She can only work 45 hrs/week which includes the time she is watching the older children. She shouldn't be on call for more than whatever amount of time is left after watching OP's two children. If XH wants her on call, he can give her specific hours to be on call for.

If your LCC is no help, you should escalate this. I am not sure you want to hear the official answer because according to the program regulations I am sure it should be "AP can only work for her HP's children, as AP lives with OP, OP is AP's HP, AP can't watch XH's baby" (on the other hand "should be" and CC). You do need to seperate childcare. Now. Before your AP packs up and leaves, especially if you are happy with the work she does for you, OP.[/quote]

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