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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You be the adult here, and tell your kid the au pair is here to stay. Period! End of story! Grow a spine.[/quote]

Thank you for your compassionate and child-centered response!

How shall I grow a spine and force my child to like someone?  I’m interested in concrete strategies to improve this situation.  My kid is miserable and it’s hard on the AP too.  We’ve tried having AP do 1:1 activities with her that she really enjoys and that helps but only in the moment.[/quote]

Can you give an example of what you’ve had them do for bonding that only works in the moment?  Maybe we can help with the bonding, so that even when she rebels against limits, she’s able to come back around mentally later.  I worked with several kids, some with special needs; building bonds and establishing trust is just as important as modeling and correcting behavior is ways appropriate to that child.  Different types of bonding activities work with different kids and situations, so sometimes it’s just a matter of getting the right thing.  One of my current charges was completely disinterested in anything I said or did until he realized that not only would I listen to him talk about Pokémon for over an hour straight, I am happy discuss/compare his cards and to help him research.  Once we found one thing that interested him enough to let me in, other possibilities opened.[/quote]

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