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[quote=Anonymous]Take 2 days off early from work.  First day, schedule her for 3 hours before kids get home.  Go over your behavior plan in minute detail.  Role play several common ways to “catch them being good” and several situations were they are at the cusp of playing/about to start fighting.  She needs actual training, not just random suggestions.  Do that for 2 hours, then give her 30-60 minutes to relax and let it sink in.  You’re on when kids get home, and have her watching the whole night.  As soon as kids are doing the bedtime routine, give her a chance to go think and relax, then talk through what made sense to her and what was confusing or seemed difficult.  Then, stay with her for the second night, but she’s completely in charge.  Kids can see you, but redirect to her if they talk to you.  Take notes (mentally) about any situations she did well, and talk after bedtime again.  Offer as little constructive criticism as possible, as you really want her to come away feeling positive, but you have to weigh that against knowing whether she can do it.  Let her go for the rest of the week, talking each night, and see how you both feel after Friday.[/quote]

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