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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How does food and meals for AP work in your household? Does she eat what you eat for meals or have a special diet for all three meals?  Do you take turns cooking and preparing the meals? Does she ever do grocery shopping for herself or for the family?
Do you all go out for dinner or order take out?  Can she prep a Blue Apron family meal kit?

FInally, what do you estimate the costs of feeding an AP are per week or for the year?

We don't know where to start and my husband made the mistake of asking her what she likes to eat. She named a bunch of gourmet fruits, berries, breads and import items that we do not normally have nor that are in season. We do have a lot of food in the house, non perishable and perishable, and I'd like to start there. But we do not have incessant snacks and fancy fruity drinks in the house either - another thing she requested.[/quote]

She is not there to cook for everybody so there are no "turns" in cooking or preparing the meals.
If she offers to cook dinner for everybody, fine, but otherwise you can only expect her to cook for the kids and for herself.
Of course, she can help you out when you make dinner.

Yes, you can ask her to go food shopping for everybody.

No, she can't prep a blue apron family meal kit unless she offers to.

How can fruits can be "gourmet"? Or even bread?
Just tell her to help herself to any food you have and give her an extra $ per week for items she would like to get.
The amount is up to you but maybe $15 or $20 would be enough for her to get what you don't usually buy.
It's not insane to want to eat snacks, fruit, bread or drink fruity drinks by the way.[/quote]

I disagree with some of this.  Every family does it differently but I want to represent the other end of the spectrum.  I don't give AP any extra shopping money for the week.  I buy a ton of groceries, including snacks, bread and fruit.  We buy packaged bread.  If she wants something more "gourmet" she can use her stipend.  Current AP doesn't like the Breyer's ice cream we buy and wants something else (Talenti): stipend.  But we tell the APs all this up front before we match.  Of course it's not insane to want fruit, bread, etc.  But if what I buy isn't what she wants, she can buy her own.

I also disagree that the AP can't ever cook for the family.  If she's a family member, I expect her to contribute.  I don't expect her to make a 3-course meal but if she's making pasta she can make the entire box and I'll eat some.  I'll have her make a casserole for the kids and i'll eat leftovers.  I DO think asking her to do all the family grocery shopping is outside the bounds.  Buying an item or two that the kids eat is fine but not all the groceries for the week. [/quote]

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