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[quote=Anonymous]We are on our 7th (and last) AP - lots of different personalities and different ups and downs.  But never encountered the particular issue we're dealing with now.

Current AP is reserved to an extreme.  She does not volunteer information.  Inquisition is required to coax out any details.  And, I'm not in the habit of giving APs the third degree (nor should I want to/need to).  But the secrecy makes for a very distant / cold relationship.

With our prior APs, I did not insist on knowing every detail of where they were going or what they were doing.  But in a casual - normal - way, we would have a friendly conversation about their plans for the evening, who they were going out with, etc.  This is a young adult in a strange country, I just feel a degree of responsibility that I have a clue in a high-level/general way of what they're up to.  This has not been a problem with any prior AP.  Some were partiers, some not.  Some into boys, some not.  Some shared more info than others.  But I had a decent general sense of who they were hanging out with.

In the last week, current AP did not eat dinner with us for 4 days in a row.  (We generally eat together as a family with our APs).  Each day, she announced at 6 when we arrived home that she would not be eating with us.  First couple of days, it was to go to gym (which she hadn't been going to before).  If asked, with whom is she going?  "A friend."  Last night, she made the same announcement, and DH asks if she's going to the gym?  "No, I'm going out."  With [fellow AP name]?  "With a friend."  We've also noticed a couple of times where she's been picked up AROUND THE CORNER from our house.  I can only imagine so that we won't see who is picking her up?

We of course suspect she has a boyfriend, but find it incredibly strange that she doesn't want us to lay eyes on him or volunteer ANY information.

This particular AP is probably the least worldly/most naive/most lacking in common sense AP that we've had, which also makes me uneasy with how secretive she's being.

Thoughts?[/quote]

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