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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stop focusing on it with the kids, and definitely do not tell the children that retaining the nanny is their responsibility.  Don't expect your 3 and 4 year old to be able to help you make them happy - it's

Talk with your new nanny and see what she suggests.

Put together a list of fun things to go see/do/explore in your new area.  Make the new nanny the source of great fun and happy adventures.

Don't focus on talking about your former nanny.

Just plan to ride it out - if you're anxious and panicky about your kids' anxiety or the nanny leaving or the transition or whatever , the kids will totally pick up on that.  If you're calm, matter of fact, straightforward and upbeat the kids will pick up on that too.  Hopefully your new nanny brings that kind of attitude to the table as well.

Your kids are young - don't give them so much emotional power.  All shall be well!  :-)
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Honestly, it's their former nanny that is the one who keeps wanting to talk/FaceTime with them.  I would have been fine making a cleaner cut, at least at the beginning, but she keeps asking to talk to them on the weekends and will call/FaceTime when they're with their new nanny during the week.

We've always been calm about transitions and the kids have never cried when being dropped off for school, gymnastics class, camp, you name it.  We're all being super positive and happy about it and talking about all the new things they can do with the new nanny in the new city but it was still tough.  They're just usually such happy go lucky kids.  I'm not trying to give the sadness weight so they don't think we're validating it, but I also don't want to be totally cold and not acknowledge their feelings at all.  [/quote]

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