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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why would her pay be affected by whether or not she brings her child? She’s still doing the work. [/quote]

This argument is so ridiculous I cringe every time I hear it. In childcare, you pay for the ratio. If you have one child then by hiring a nanny, the most expensive form of childcare, you are guaranteeing a 1:1 ratio (your child gets 100% of the caregivers attention), and you are paying for that, usually $20-25/hr.

If you are doing a nanny share with another family with one child the ratio is now 1:2 (your child is getting about 50% of the caregivers attention), and thus the cost goes down to roughly $12-15/hr per family.

If you enroll your child in daycare, where the ratios are much higher, 1:4 or 1:6, then again your cost goes down, to about $5-10/hr.

Maternal bias is a REAL thing. I see it regularly at the library and playground where I often see nannies with their charges and their own children. The nanny gives her own child more attention every time. If both kids are crying, who does she run to first?

So, if a nanny brings her own child, the ratio may be 1:2, but your child is likely getting even less than 50% of nanny's attention, since she will inherently favor her own child.

And especially with the age difference this is a bad plan for a million reasons. Is your home fully toddler proofed yet? Is nanny expecting you to provide a pack n play, extra high chair and double stroller to accommodate her child? What will happen when nanny's child is ill? When your own child is ill will nanny take the day off and expect to be paid for it so she doesn't risk getting her own child sick? Are you going to provide food for both nanny AND her child? Is your baby going to be expected just to nap on the go every morning so nanny's child can continue his usual routine? Is your baby going to spend twice as much time in a baby bjorn or stroller while nanny engages more directly with her own child?

What if nanny's child sees mommy taking care of a new baby and feels jealous and retaliates? What if nanny's child hits baby? What if nanny's child acts out while mommy is feeding baby and draws all over your walls with markers?

I personally know a mother who hired a nanny who brought her own child. The nanny's child was a few months older than her charge, they were both toddlers. DD had many bumps and bruises at the end of the day, but her mom chalked it up to being a toddler. But after a while she began to wonder and set up visible cameras. It turned out that nanny's son was repeatedly hitting and pushing DD. They tried speaking to the nanny about their concerns, but the situation only got worse, and after nanny's son pushed DD down the stairs they finally came to their senses and fired her.

No, a nanny who brings her own child does not deserve the same pay as a nanny who doesn't bring a child, because the ratio of children to caregiver increases and therefore it is literally impossible for your child to be getting the 1:1 attention that makes nanny care so expensive in the first place. [/quote]

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