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[quote=Anonymous]I had been on the job search for about 6 weeks and have been interviewing with several families.  I had gotten pretty far with three families and was going over a contract with one family. I had not officially accepted but we were all moving forward.   In the end, I ended up declining the position because the family refused to understand how guaranteed hours worked and wanted to bank hours.  Lots of, “If we aren’t using you, why do we need to pay you?”

I quickly declined and wished them the best of luck on their search.  The mother never responded to my texts, calls or emails.  Never.

I ended up accepting my second choice position (same pay, just later start date and slightly further commute).

Then I receive a call from my nanny agency saying the family was furious because I “didn’t show up for my start date.”

Nope.  We didn’t have a start date.  I never accepted the position, I don’t accept positions until all is agreed upon in the contract.  I emailed you, called you, texted you and never got a response.  Aside from showing up at your house, what could I do.

Thankfully I’ve been with my agency for awhile and they understood and tried to contact the family and explain that I’m not obligated to start just because the position was offered to me.  Thank you, agency, for having my back.

All was well, until a nanny friend of mine told me the mother was slandering my name in some local Facebook child care Facebook group.  Same spiel, I didn’t show up to my start date.  I ended up responding to her claims and basically said what I mentioned above.  We didn’t have a start date because I never accepted the position.  I declined the terms of the contract and said it wouldn’t work out, best of luck etc and you stopped responding to all my attempts at getting ahold of you.

She then messaged me through Facebook messenger (yes, she’s blocked now) and tells me I have a bloated ego and that I’m “an entitled babysitter”.  That is she takes the time and puts forth effort to interview someone, that they shouldn’t seek employment anywhere else and that I basically had to accept the position because I’m the only one she offered it to and it was a “total waste” of her time to try to hire me and she doesn’t like her time wasted.  She also told me I’d never find a family who’d agree to guaranteed hours (really, because I’ve done this for 17 years and every family I’ve worked for agreed to guaranteed hours, including the one I work for now).  Ends with how she will make sure I can’t waste anyone else’s time and that she’ll make sure I don’t work in this area again because she’s “very influential”.

Ok, crazy.  So clearly I dodged a bullet, but I had met her numerous times and never guessed she could get this way.

But families, a nanny can decline your offer at any time.  A nanny can search for other positions while interviewing for you.  You are interviewing other candidates, no?  A nanny also wants to find the best fit for her.  It ends up working out much better if everyone is happy.

I know most families aren’t like this, definitely the craziest thing I’ve experienced. [i][/quote]

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