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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you mean you don’t ever want her to refer to race about DD? I’d say wait and see if it comes up again. It is quite obvious when people are racist, but this don’t necessarily make her racist. Just wait it out to see if she makes comments like this again.[/quote]

She was nervous because there were so many black people...  that is racist.  Not "so many people" but" so many black people".  Straight up racist comment which does make her a racist.

I would start looking for another nanny.  [/quote]

Yep. My housekeeper/nanny has said similar things. I responded with something like, "Why? What about black people makes you nervous? They're just people." And then I dropped it. The third time she said something like that without thinking, she actually apologized to me the next day and said that was not the kind of person she thought she was.

She's an older, white Southern woman from rural Alabama. I was on the verge of letting her go, but she doesn't have that much interaction with my kids anymore, she did seem to gain some insight, and it has never happened again. I don't for a minute think it would have stopped if I hadn't said something, though.[/quote]

I think you handled this well and it is a good reference for the OP's situation. This could be a good opportunity to help the nanny broaden her views. You'd also be teaching your child the value of helping others to grow and change.

Also, from a broader social perspective, we won't stomp out racism by isolating everyone who expresses racist views. Engagement is key to solving this social problem.

That said, if she doesn't develop and you're worried about your child adopting those views, you may then want to hire a new nanny. By trying to help her change her mind, you'll have taught your child a valuable lesson. By tossing her out without trying, you'll have taught him a harmful one. [/quote]

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