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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Former AP here.

I was shocked when I learned my host family wouldn't take me on a trip abroad 3 weeks after my arrival. 
I was trying to get used to my new life and felt lonely in their house all by myself.
I was told I would be treated like family so I was taken aback when I wasn't included.
I would have wanted to know in advance as it would have been a reason for me not to accept them as a host family.

I'm sure many APs would be OK with that so that they can go home or travel. But since you can't be sure, it's better to disclose it beforehand so that nobody's disapointed.[/quote]

Curious to know if you ended up staying the rest of the year with this HF and was able to get pass this or not.  Was your relationship with the HF ever the same after this?[/quote]

I ended up leaving for other reasons.
I didn't tell them I was upset not to be included.
It was their right not to :)
But this is not what I wanted, maybe I was naive, but I really wanted to be treated like family.[/quote]

Would you consider that you aren’t being treated “like family” in op’s case? It sounds like this is an exception for the family and perhaps a trip not organized or paid for by host parents, so they have less say. Also it’s a period @3 months after their ap starts, not 3 weeks which I agree is a terrible time to leave a brand new ap to herself. [/quote]

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