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[quote=Anonymous]One of my charges is spoiled, doesn't get disciplined- meaning no redirection, no breaks, no talks, nothing; and it's beginning to affect her behavior, badly. She yells, swings, throws things all while crying, when she doesn't get her way. Did I mentioned she just turned TWO?! She doesn't follow directions and she understands! She is super smart and right before she does something (that she knows not to) she will look at you and laugh. She runs away from me (and her parents), while in public which is extremely dangerous- we are in a busy area with lots of traffic, pedestrians and cars. Her parents laugh and chase her, but how are you teaching her not to run away, when she thinks its funny because you are laughing? I've spoken to her parents and they say "oh we notice this and that and we agree it's not okay." However, when she misbehaves while we're both around, they still do nothing. I have had to talk to her (in front of her parent) because she is yelling and throwing fits while mom is saying "what do you want baby?" Why do I have to step in to correct YOUR child's behavior? But I do it because that's not how you act and even at 2 years old, you are NOT going to treat your mom or dad that way- at least not while I'm around. I have also witness her hit her parents. She hit me once (I DON"T PLAY THAT) and I got on her level, put on my firm voice and told her "we do not hit! It is not nice and I don't like that!" She did get upset (which I shared with her parents) but she hasn't hit me since.

Some parents may say "oh, shes young and that's what they do." No! Somethings yes, but the way she acts it's simply because her parents allow her to do these things. I'm in a share and the other child who is the same age, does NOT act like this. Why? Because her parents nip that in the bud! If she throws tantrums, the parents carry on with their business and when she's done, they'll go and talk to her. They reward ONLY good behavior. The other family, they laugh at the tantrums or pick her up and give her whatever she wants or whatever will calm her down. You are teaching her that "to get your way, throw tantrums." Yes, clearly their parenting skills are different but their child needs BOUNDARIES!! She throws fits in public and it's embarrassing! I don't care if people stare because I will sit her in the stroller until she calms down but she's taking away from the other child, a lot now. I'm constantly chasing her or strapping her down (which I don't like to do but I'm not holding you kicking and screaming). Sometimes I'm scared to even let her out the stroller and anybody that knows me I'm that fun person who like to give children space for trial and error but with her, NO!

The family is really nice and I like them as people but their parenting skills in the discipline department, absolutely suck! The child is sweet when she wants to be but her attitude is really bad. Advice? Nannies have you been in this situation before? If so, what did you (and the parents) do? Excuse any errors.[/quote]

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