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[quote=Anonymous]I work for divorced parents that share 50/50 custody.  I was reluctant to take this position at first but it has worked out.  I provide care for whichever parent has custody that week at their house.  I work under a contract and have guaranteed hours and benefits.  DC goes to preschool 10 hours a week.  To fill these 10 hours I will do only child related cleaning tasks and I've been doing a lot of cooking from scratch for DC.  I do not do any other types of domestic chores.  NONE!  I was clear about this in my interview.

MB got remarried and her new husband (who works from home) has tried to assign me cleaning tasks outside of taking care of DC.  I told him I did not do that and he dropped it that day.  The very next day he said that I can only clean so much for DC.  He felt that it was not a big deal for me to do some basic household chores.  He said I had enough time to go to Starbucks.  This really upset me.  I told him my contract was between MB and DB and that if he had issues with me he needed to speak with them.  I felt he was so out of line and crossed major boundaries.

I notified both of them via email what had transpired.  MB was very apologetic and said she wanted me to solely take care of DC and I earned every break I took.  She said her husband would not be an issue in the future.  DB told me that if this happened again to call him immediately and he would straighten him out.

The next week I worked at DB house and everything went smoothly.  I then returned to MB house.  I saw the stepfather in passing and he did not say a word.  Later on he came out in the kitchen and he was glaring at me.  I have a feeling he had his @$$ handed to him by both parents.  Again he did not say a word.  I hate working with this kind of tension.  I swear I can feel him glaring at me as I walk to my car to pick up DC from his office window.  I have grown to love this job and now I feel like there is a damper over it.  The stepdad is not allowed to give me any type of instructions or interfere with my care of DC but the tension is still there.  MB texted me and asked me how everything is going.  I just said me and her husband have not spoken.

Do you think it would be okay to ask if I can take care of DC at DB's house full time?  I could return him to MB house right before she gets home.  I worry my presence will put some kind of strain on her marriage and make things harder.[/quote]

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