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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a nanny, I have the exact same issues with one grandmother - the father's mother.  She is a wealthy, spoiled and childish woman who wants her grandchild, mt charge, to fulfill some need that is far too much to ask from a two-year-old.  My charge wants me when this grandmother comes over (not true with the other grandmother) and will not let me leave the room.  The grandmother gets hurt and pulls guilt-trip on mt charge like, "If you don't want to play with me, I am going home".  And she blames me - telling me that my charge is demanding and spoiled.

My employers have gone into family therapy with her and things get better for a little while but then revert back to her demanding she have alone time with my charge.  As soon as this alone time is given, the grandmother cancels or has other "important" plans that cannot be changed.

I have no idea what the answer is, OP.  But I do empathize with your situation.  It has been terrible for my employers as they are constantly dealing with some huge emotional crisis the grandmother is having.  As a nanny, I try to smooth things over as much as possible but I will NOT let the grandmother take it out on my charge.  [/quote]

Wow, thank you for sharing your story. It sounds very relatable.

How is your relationship with the grandmother? When she's around, do you try to talk to her, etc?

At one point, MIL was visiting and the day she left, she was crying because she'll miss DD. Our nanny took pity and gave phone number saying she'll be sending her pictures. DH and I were against this because knowing how she is, if for some reason the nanny isn't able to send her photos when she asks, she might throw a fit again. We aren't even able to handle her so why pass the burden onto another person?[/quote]

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