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[quote=Anonymous]Thank you everyone for taking the time to reply.

Yes, we do give the nanny paid time offs so we paid her during that week MIL was here. At first, we didn't think we'd have a problem with this setup - ie giving the nanny the week off when MIL is here. But this proved to be disruptive because MIL just drops DD like a hot potato if she's inconsolable.

I think she also feels deprived because her initial expectation (when DD was born) was to get daily photos and do daily FaceTime. After the first falling out, this has been greatly reduced to FaceTime once a week and occasional photos. While I'm happy to give someone my time, her behavior from day one has been extremely off putting. Even if I did have a few minutes in my busy day, I just don't want to deal with someone like that. My intent is to not deprive, but seriously, who wants to give someone like that their time of day.

I had given it a chance the past few months. I had returned her FaceTime calls once/twice a week. I had sent some photos. But I was hoping to keep it manageable. I was hoping to keep the same pace as it was after the first falling out. But as I started doing this, within a couple weeks, she would start calling me every single day! Like I said, my intent is really not to deprive her or anyone. I just know that once she goes into full swing and starts demanding for stuff, if we're unable to meet these, she would throw a fit again.

I feel like there is no right explanation to give her. This is her main thing and I don't think she knows that she is acting inappropriately. I think deep in heart, she knows she is right. That we are bad people who are intentionally depriving her. I don't think she realizes that her behavior is really alienating.

I don't even know if suggesting family therapy would be a good idea because to her, there's nothing wrong but us the parents. That we don't value family because we're depriving her.
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