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[quote=Anonymous]I'm a mom to a one-year old. I work a full-time job from home. My one year old loves her nanny and grandma is very jealous about this. To some extent, I understand this, so when GM visited, I had the nanny not come to work as per her request. However, an hour into day one, grandma texts me, "I quit" because DD was inconsolable. GM had no idea how to settle her so she demands that I go upstairs (I work downstairs) to get DD. This was very disruptive and wrecked my work.

The next couple days were not any better. I was able to work sporadically, but still had to rescue DD. When she goes out to lunch, I've to watch DD too. It's different with the nanny because nanny just deals with it.

Nanny doesn't come to work on Fridays and since MIL and FIL were around, I was hoping that they can watch DD and I could make up for some lost time. But alas, they decided to go wine tasting. While I fully understand that she is not, in any way, obligated to watch DD, she is the reason I barely had any work done so in this instance, she kinda owes me. Had she been more accepting and less jealous, everything would've worked out well.

After a few months, MIL visited again. She demanded that the nanny not come again. DH put his foot down and said we can't accommodate her request. She has to get along with the nanny and be respectful. MIL throws a tantrum and doesn't speak to DH for weeks. She also has a history of flipping out whenever she doesn't get what she wants - e.g. wanting to FaceTime during my transvaginal ultrasound (when I was still pregnant with DD), wanting DD to sleep in her arms all day as a newborn, daily photos, daily FaceTimes, etc. I could come up with a looooong list. Sometimes we acquiesce in her demands, but that one time when we decided we can't tolerate her anymore, we had not spoken to her for months. She mellowed down temporarily, but went back in full swing in no time.

Recently, she was here in January. She asked if she could come in March. My parents were just here and a close friend also came immediately after so we'd appreciate some peace and quiet for a while. We also have travel plans coming up soon so we wanted to compromise and suggested that she come in May. MIL threw a fit again because she wanted to come in March AND April. She basically hung up on DH when he said he can't host her. By the way, when she comes, she doesn't stay in a hotel. She stays with us for a full week or a bit more.

This has been a vicious cycle and I don't know how to best address it.

1. MIL wants something.
2. We decline.
3. MIL throws a fit.
4. She doesn't speak to us for weeks/months.
5. FIL calls DH and say, "Somehow, you gotta call your mother."
6. DH calls.
7. They start talking again.
8. Lather. Rinse.Repeat.[/quote]

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