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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stating your worth is not threatening them.  If you are in the middle of negotiations I would say there current offer is not acceptable.  Tell them what you wrote in your first post.  Without the mileage you will be making less money with an added child and that you need a $2 hour raise ( you should make more than that).  I would quietly put some feelers out there and start looking.  The raise they offered you is an insult which says a lot about their character.  [/quote]

Op here. This thread is very eye opening for me. I appreciate it. They have been walking around complaining  about all of their new added expenses now that they have a baby and are trying to get my oldest in a good private school. I felt guilty thinking about talking to them but honestly this isn’t my business that they had to buy a new suv etc.... They are really kind people and I don’t mean for them to across like they aren’t.[/quote]

These "kind" "people complaining to you about their added expenses is manipulative.  They know they are screwing you over with this so called raise.  Offering you an extra $1/hour raise shows you where you are there priority list when it comes to expenses.  They could have gotten a used SUV and not a new one.  Pay close attention to the details.  I sense you are the very kind person and you are not use to standing up for yourself.  [/quote]

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