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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She's 7. She's always been annoying.[/quote]  How long is always?  How long has she been with you?  How long have you known her? [quote]Or attention seeking. I'm not sure which - possibly both.

It's almost like a nervous tic, she can't help herself.

For example, if things are quiet she'll do a ridiculous fake sneeze.[/quote] Sound like attention-seeking behavior, so don't give her what she wants. [quote]If I'm concentrating on something she'll come up and tickle me.[/quote] She's more than old enough to learn to keep her hands to herself. [quote]If I'm talking on the phone she'll start waving around to get my attention. [/quote] Why haven't you taught her better manners when you have to take a call?  How much are you on the phone anyway?

[quote]I know these examples are nothing out of the ordinary - but it's constant such behaviour - she just can't help herself, and cannot empathise as to how it feels to be on the constant receiving end. [/quote] Children have to be taught to sympathize, and until they can do that, they can't empathize.  If you haven't taught her to do that with you by now, I'm not sure what to tell you.

[quote]She doesn't just do it to me. It's to everyone or in front of anyone. Over Christmas, I had my sister over[/quote] Why was your charge with your sister?! [quote]and she asked me how I put up with her behavior,[/quote] Not her business!!! [quote]which has prompted me to discuss it here.

She's doing well at school - no behavioural problems ever flagged by the teachers - and she has lots of friends.[/quote]In that case, it's not to everyone, nor is it in front of everyone.  She chooses to do these things because she's looking for a reaction. [quote]

What should I do about this?[/quote]  Ignore the behavior so that she knows she won't get a reaction.  Or quit so you don't have to deal with it. Or look into what YOU need to change with YOUR behavior to create and hold firm the appropriate boundaries.  I would suggest starting with PEP.  [quote]She can't go through life annoying people.[/quote] She isn't, she doesn't have problems at school.  That means she's doing it with you for a reason, she is making a choice. [quote]Her last 2 babysitters have quit because they can't handle her behavior.[/quote] Interesting.  So, either you have no idea if this is how she has ALWAYS been, because you are one more in a long line of childcare workers, and she knows she can get rid of you.  Or she has too many people in and out for date nights and she needs someone consistent. [quote]It's causing a lot of family stress for me because I take care of her at my house.[/quote] Which means you are in your territory, not hers.  She's not comfortable there, she needs to be in her territory, so that she feels she can stop defending herself.  [b]Oh, and you aren't a nanny,[/b] if she's in your house. [quote]My husband wants me to quit because he's stressed out.[/quote] Um, yet more reason for her to want your attention.  Why is she in your home while your husband is there?! [quote]

Any ideas would be appreciated.[/quote][/quote]

Don't listen to this. You sound like a very good nanny OP. You have a greater responsibility towards the children than babysitters.  Nannies are with children anywhere from 5 to 10 hours a day working anywhere from 25 to 45 hours a week. Their experience exposes them to the non-glamorous of childcare such as tantrums, endless poopy diapers, and throw up. Babysitters aren't with the child(ren) that long to experience and handle that sort of stuff. A lot of women who want to be nannies think their babysitting experience counts as nannying but it is not the same experience. They're pretty much entry level nannies. Your setup is more like a nanny share.

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